“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude” – Maya Angelou
Have you ever considered how much personal energy it takes to talk down to yourself?
It takes the same amount of time to send yourself a positive message as it does a negative one, yet the former has the power to energize us while the latter depletes us of our energy and confidence. If you want to move one step closer to accomplishing your goals, you need to reframe your thoughts. Myth: If I’m hard on myself, I’ll reach my goal faster. Myth debunked: Beating yourself up can actually significantly slow down your progress. Periat (2008), says it best, “Another excellent trick for making yourself feel bad is to set unrealistic goals regarding the amount of tasks you can complete in a day. Being time pressured gives you hemorrhoids and a lovely feeling of inadequacy.” What does help us attain our goals however, is beginning with a benchmark, setting a clear, realistic and attainable goal, a timeline, and a deadline. I will provide you with the tools to re-frame your internal dialogue immediately. Words have power. We believe what we say. We internalize what we believe. We behave in ways that reinforce our beliefs.
“Attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company. a home. a relationship. The remarkable thing is we have a choice, every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for the day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that other people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90 % how I react to it.” – Charles Swindoll